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 I have repeatedly observed that some couples build their family life, relying on generally accepted rules and stereotypes about a happy family life. Like, without two bags of gold jewelry, a diamond ring and huge bouquets of roses, it is impossible for ladies to feel fully loved, and for men - without regular sex and an arranged life: plates borscht, order in the house and an agreeable wife.
And it also happens that the envy of the presence of something in others pushes to "pilezh": but the Sidorovs already have this and that, but we do not. Well, isn't it stupid? Live with each other to accumulate wealth. Women are more prone to stereotyped thinking. That is why they are more likely to succumb to the influence of public views on the arrangement of family life. Men, though not always, are more indifferent to what others think, especially when it comes to material values. They are not initially drawn to do the same as others. Maybe they have no desire to be banal at all. They understand how much easier and more pernicious it is to focus on what others have without bringing anything of their own.
The same goes for relationships. You do not need to force your half to do the way someone else does, if it is unpleasant for her or she considers it stupid. I do not argue that it is even useful to learn from others, but it is impossible to bring the matter to the point of absurdity. Well, she liked that her friend was given flowers every day, but she was not. So what? It remains to be seen how sincere that relationship is, and what pushes that guy to such actions. Maybe there is more love and mutual understanding in your relationship, and why complement them with dead flowers? In addition, if you constantly fill up with flowers, it will soon get bored and the donor will need to resort to more sophisticated methods of demonstrating their love.
In addition, each person is unique in his own way, and the fact that he does something differently from others does not mean that he is not worthy of his own, different from the rest of the happiness. It is not necessary to run immediately down the aisle, because in the opinion of your relatives, this is the only way befitting a man and a woman to live. If the wife is not a born housewife, but a successful business woman, why put her at the stove? If the husband is a talented writer and is absolutely not adapted to life, why should he now be expelled to work, because according to the ideas of the majority, a man should be the breadwinner? Remember, if you are happy in a relationship and you know that your partner is also happy, do not worry that you are not like everyone else. This is something to be proud of. Because banality in love is a crime against humanity. Banality is already enough in our life.
Lyudmila and Anatoly were a couple, looking at which one wonders how they found each other and managed to stay together. Luda is a keen workaholic. She is a successful specialist in a large company. She rarely gets more than three hours of sleep a night. When she wakes up, she instantly gets out of bed. She firmly believes that excessive freedom makes children think they are abandoned and not being cared for. She can talk for hours about the problems of psychology, spirituality and relationships between people. When it comes to money, Luda is thrifty, her motto is: "Do not want, do not spend."
While Luda does not sit still, Anatoly does not see a better life for himself than sitting at home after dinner and watching TV. He loves to sleep and can only function normally after a healthy nine hours of sleep. As a parent, he believes that freedom helps children develop responsibility and that overprotection leads to unhealthy addiction. Psychology and personal growth did not affect the circle of his interests.He is light on money, considering how it came and went, but when it is, it should be enjoyed.
One might think that two people with such opposing interests rubbed themselves hard against each other. Although all, without exception, friends of Luda and Anatoly say that this couple has the best relationship they have ever seen. What's their secret? They both recognize that there is more to their relationship than personal style, preferences, or interests. Their relationship is based on respect and love for each other, as well as the desire to extend that respect and love to other relationships in their lives. Sometimes they disagree with each other, but these disagreements do not destroy or diminish their love, because the common for them is much more important than personal. Along with contradictions, they adhere to common values, aspirations, and actions that bring joy and integrity to their lives, just like their beloved daughter or their passion for dance, sex, art and music. They strive to make each other happier, kinder. This happens not only because they want the best for each other, but also because they know that the happiness of their partner will fill their own life with happiness.
Vinstein and K
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