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 Surely many parents found themselves in a situation where a child in public could throw a tantrum for one reason or another. Not obedience and not understanding, and sometimes for the sake of principle, to the evil of parents, this is found in most children. This is not their fault, but rather the responsibility for such behavior is borne by the parents, namely, for not being able to and not knowing the main principles of the correct upbringing of a child. The 10 most important and useful of them stand out, for desperate, or inexperienced in parenting
, it will be presented rather as wise commandments that will help them make of their little prankster person, in every sense of the word.
1. Be a benchmark. Parents are always role models, so everything they do makes sense for the child. Never get excited in front of the baby, do not throw rash statements. Before yelling at a child for this or that offense, ask yourself the question "Why do you need this and what will you achieve by this?"
2. Excessive love for the child. A serious mistake of many mothers, which sometimes leads to irreversible and disastrous consequences in the teenage and adult life of their child. And all because you can spoil him. Control your love for the child, sometimes know how to say "no" to him, for his sake - for his good. The inability to refuse a child leads to the fact that he ceases to accept the realities of life and is lost in adulthood in defining good and bad.
3. See situations through the eyes of your offspring. Try to see the world through the eyes of a child, live his life. Be close to him not only emotionally, but also physically. Help him in everything. This does not mean that you have to do the lessons for him, but it is worth sacrificing your interests for the sake of playing football with your son.
4. Monitoring the child's age-related changes. Try not to miss the moments when he needs your help and support in changing emotions and physiology. Do not hamper his “I” during these periods, help find balance in new feelings and sensations.
5. Maintaining control over the child. Make it a rule that not being able to cope with a child at an early age will lead to problems in the future. Learn to find ways to influence the baby, but not through force, threats or blackmail.
6. Maintaining a balance between restrictions and freedom of the child. Some restrictions will help him develop self-control, and freedom will make him self-confident and the ability to take responsibility for any actions will appear.
7. Maintain consistency in their actions. If you point out to your child any mistakes and forbid them to do them again, do not forget that you should not make them in front of the child. In other words, today you set the rules, and tomorrow you yourself break or change them. Because of such situations, the child simply does not understand where to do the right thing and where not.
8. Do not use forceful methods of education. The use of physical punishment develops cruelty in children and leads to disastrous results.
9. Explain your rules and decisions to your child. Children are not able to correctly assess the situation, especially for children of adolescence. They already feel like they are adults, but they do not always know how to act in a given situation, since they have no life experience, but they believe they have the right to make decisions. Here parents must explain the incorrectness of his judgments, point out where he is mistaken and why.
10. Treat your child with respect. The way we treat our child is exactly the same - he perceives the world, that is, he projects your behavior onto others.So he will become more benevolent and understand how to behave in the society of peers and adults.
Kish A.Yu.
Forum on parenting
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